Q&A: Team Culture between Colleagues who are Far Apart
Q: How do we build a “team” culture when I rarely see my colleagues? Dr. Paul White: Having team-members work from a variety of settings is extremely common in organizations. As a result, building a...
View ArticleQ&A: Imperfections of Your Spouse
Q: I am a very orderly person and my husband is not. I am very frustrated having to always clean up after him. Suggestions? Gary Chapman: To me, this calls for requests, not demands. If he can respond...
View ArticleInvesting your Time and Energy Properly
This is a good day for reflection. We stand on a threshold of new opportunities. Are you pleased with the way you invested your time and energies last year? Are there changes you need to make in your...
View ArticleDelighting in Your Work
As the new year progresses, I want to take you back to the first chapter of the Bible. “The Lord God took the man and put him into the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.” Do you find it...
View ArticleHolding Things In
Do you tend to hold things inside instead of sharing your thoughts and feelings? One wife said, “He came home one day and told me he was leaving. I could not believe it. I had no idea that it was that...
View ArticlePraying for Our Enemies
Many people say that the United States of America is the greatest nation on earth. Whatever our limitations we have been greatly blessed of God. This nation has faced many crises in the past. Today we...
View ArticleA Mark of a Loving Person Is Courtesy
One of the marks of a loving person is courtesy. The popular conception of courtesy is to be well mannered. However, the word courtesy is much richer; it means to be ‘friendly minded’. To treat...
View ArticleHumility
Humility is the mark of a true Christian. Jesus humbled himself when he became a man. Humility is stepping down so someone else can step up. It can be exhibited in small ways such as allowing someone...
View ArticleMerry Christmas
Merry Christmas! Webster says, that ‘merry’ implies uninhibited enjoyment of frolic, festivity, or fun. In addition freshness and buoyancy as manifest in singing, leaping, and dancing. That’s what I...
View ArticleMarriage: a Contract or Covenant
Many people view marriage as a contract. “I’ll do this if you will do that.” But the Bible views marriage as a covenant. “I will look out for your wellbeing no matter how you treat me. I view our...
View ArticleYou Must Learn to Listen
If you want to have a healthy marriage, you must learn to listen. Listening leads to understanding. Once I understand what my spouse is thinking and feeling, I can have a meaningful response. When I...
View ArticleArguments are Seldom the Answer
Some people don’t solve conflicts because they would rather win an argument than find a solution. Did you ever stop to think that if you win the argument, your spouse lost the argument. It’s no fun to...
View ArticleQ&A: Fading in Love
Q: Gary, I’m engaged, but the “in-love” phase seems to already be ending. How can we maintain the ‘openness’ in our relationship? Gary: I’m glad you’re acknowledging that the “in-love” feelings are...
View ArticleThe Art of Apologizing
Though the word apology, as we know it, does not exist in the New Testament, an absence of the specific word does not indicate an absence of the concept. Scripture provides lessons for how to do this...
View ArticleQ&A: Is There Hope for a Divorced Couple?
Q: Gary, I am recently divorced and have just discovered the 5LL. I haven’t been speaking his. We are still in touch. Can I still save something of our marriage? Gary: You know I have many people who...
View ArticleQ+A: Mistakes of our Fathers
Q: Gary, is it really possible to have a strong marriage even though we come from broken homes? Gary: You know, one of the realities of our culture is that thousands of people come from broken homes....
View ArticleQ+A: Believing the Best
Q: Gary, when a relationship has weathered several trials, and then a partner suddenly “sees the light” and starts changing (for the better), how does one go about trusting that the change is real?”...
View ArticleWhen Money is the Monkey in the Middle of Your Marriage
Money was the monkey in the middle of my marriage. Thankfully, over the course of the last five years, we’ve learned to “play nice” and tame the taunting wild beast called the budget. How we got money...
View Article‘Touch’ is Fundamental
A while ago, I met an old friend whom I had not seen in a long time. Immediately, we hugged each other. Why? Because ‘touch’ is fundamental to who we are as humans. We speak of the ‘five senses’. One...
View ArticlePhysical Touch
Physical touch is one of the five love languages. For some people, it is their primary love language. If you want them to feel loved, then give them a hug, or a pat on the back. This is true for...
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